Personal observations on life

Are we leading a double life?

Are you living a double life? - Written Reality

Most of us are ‘normal’ people, with no criminal tendencies and no desire to earn money by dubious means. We are not the kind of people who would lead a double life, unless of course we are spies or undercover agents. Still, even without knowing it, many of us do lead a double life.

What we see

On the one hand, we project the image of a successful, happily married person who loves her partner to bits, and cherish the moments spent with children. This is the image of ourselves that we project to the outside world in real life interaction and on social media. This persona, if a woman, would be modest and demure, walk behind the husband, and smiles a lot, apparently at peace with the whole world. When guests come home, she would greet them with the right degree of cheerfulness, and would ask them what they would like to have. If they decline to have a drink, she would lovingly persuade them, run to the kitchen and reappear with a tray full of drinks and knick-knacks. She always defers to the husband during a conversation, and never initiates conversation. To the whole world, she is the ideal hostess and the perfect wife.

What reality may be

There may be some women who truly fit the description above, but many are putting on an act when they behave in such ways, bowing to the unspoken rules of society about how they should behave. Many times, a woman would like to take decisions, and lead from the front. Many times, she would like to stop smiling stupidly, and say something that is of importance. Many times, she would like just to leave it all behind, take a solo trip around the world, go to a pub and get drunk, and wear revealing, sexy clothes. The woman with the ‘happily married’ image may in reality be suffocating in a loveless marriage, which is agonizingly prolonged just for the sake of the children.

If this is not a double life, what is?

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